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Daisy L
I have to write a book taken place in the Victorian days for school. What are some lesser known facts about the Victorian days that could hep me write the book better? I have Victorian names picked out, and the facts can be about girls, boys, adults, anything really. One is a royalty. Did they have royalty in the Victorian days? I really don't know. Thanks :)
Answer
Justins right.
Clothing sometimes consisted what is now called Baby Doll Gothic
And Baby Doll Angel clothes.
Women used only corsets, yep no bras. A strip of linen that was disposed after two weeks was worn instead of underwear.
Baths were taken once a week and sometimes in small tubs or public washrooms.
When a woman entered a room, it was considered rude for a man to offer his seat to her because the cushion might still be warm.
People thought food digested better in the dark, so a dining room located in the basement was considered the best spot in which to eat.
A glance into a bedroom was considered improper if viewed by a visitor, so bedrooms were located on the second floor.
People were shy about having water closets, so they disguised fixtures as dressers and cabinets. Tubs were enclosed in wooden boxes that resembled large chests. People went to great lengths to hide toilets from view. In some homes, they were behind a curtain or screen, or even in a room of their own.
Children rarely saw their parents. A special trip was made to the nursery each evening, and the visit lasted about an hour.
Women made pictures, wreaths, and bouquets from their own hair or the hair of a family member to be framed and displayed in the parlor.
Some rocking chairs were designed to disguise a chamber pot. People had to be careful not to rock too quickly!
A lot of men used macassar oil to slick back their hair. Crocheted doilies, called antimacassars, were put over the backs of chairs to keep this grease from staining the furniture.
For a lady to show her ankles was considered very risque!
To control insects, many people kept a HEDGEHOG in the basement. It curled up and slept in the day, but roamed around the dark kitchen at night eating cockroaches and other insects.
Some ladies suffered with facial hair,or "Bad Hair Days" or hated darning.
We are happy to tell you that it is now illegal for a husband to strike or beat his wife. His right of "moderate correction" was first questioned in the time of Charles the Second, and is now indefensible. A wife has the right to the custody of her child up to seven years of age. The personal property of a wife passes to her husband absolutely on her marriage, but her real (i.e.freehold) property can only be alienated by him during her life with her consent
In Victorian times, darning stockings was a task ladies undertook - time consuming and laborious.
left-handed people repressed
Justins right.
Clothing sometimes consisted what is now called Baby Doll Gothic
And Baby Doll Angel clothes.
Women used only corsets, yep no bras. A strip of linen that was disposed after two weeks was worn instead of underwear.
Baths were taken once a week and sometimes in small tubs or public washrooms.
When a woman entered a room, it was considered rude for a man to offer his seat to her because the cushion might still be warm.
People thought food digested better in the dark, so a dining room located in the basement was considered the best spot in which to eat.
A glance into a bedroom was considered improper if viewed by a visitor, so bedrooms were located on the second floor.
People were shy about having water closets, so they disguised fixtures as dressers and cabinets. Tubs were enclosed in wooden boxes that resembled large chests. People went to great lengths to hide toilets from view. In some homes, they were behind a curtain or screen, or even in a room of their own.
Children rarely saw their parents. A special trip was made to the nursery each evening, and the visit lasted about an hour.
Women made pictures, wreaths, and bouquets from their own hair or the hair of a family member to be framed and displayed in the parlor.
Some rocking chairs were designed to disguise a chamber pot. People had to be careful not to rock too quickly!
A lot of men used macassar oil to slick back their hair. Crocheted doilies, called antimacassars, were put over the backs of chairs to keep this grease from staining the furniture.
For a lady to show her ankles was considered very risque!
To control insects, many people kept a HEDGEHOG in the basement. It curled up and slept in the day, but roamed around the dark kitchen at night eating cockroaches and other insects.
Some ladies suffered with facial hair,or "Bad Hair Days" or hated darning.
We are happy to tell you that it is now illegal for a husband to strike or beat his wife. His right of "moderate correction" was first questioned in the time of Charles the Second, and is now indefensible. A wife has the right to the custody of her child up to seven years of age. The personal property of a wife passes to her husband absolutely on her marriage, but her real (i.e.freehold) property can only be alienated by him during her life with her consent
In Victorian times, darning stockings was a task ladies undertook - time consuming and laborious.
left-handed people repressed
What exactly Abstinence-only Education for girls does it make any difference?
pat m
What exactly is it trying to teach? A moral of the story?
Answer
Teaching "abstinence only" is in principle the same whether it is to girls or to boys, except that some tweaks here and there need to be made to accommodate for the genders' psychological differences. Basically, boys give love to get sex, while girls give sex to get love. Girls want to be loved and understood, while boys want to be respected and trusted. And so the teachings should adjust accordingly to the genders' persepectives.
"What it teaches", and "the moral of the story", though, is more complex. I think teaching abstinence in a culture that doesn't support the practice is almost pointless, because there are issues that are much bigger than "don't have sex outside the bounds of a faithful monogamous relationship". Sex ed is not designed to address those issues.
In order for abstinence to work for someone, he or she needs to: (1) have an inherent value system that puts abstinence high on someone's moral priority, and (2) be part of a community that supports that value system and will keep him or her accountable for it. Otherwise, abstinence can't work because it's simply counter to human nature.
(1) For most people, this is has to do with coming from a family that practices and advocates abstinence, and discourages sexual activity in unmarried family members. They typically grew up being taught that sex is meant to be saved for a faithful monogamous relationship with a long term love partner; and thus they also acquire a different understanding of love, romantic relationship, and family compared to other people who don't believe in abstinence. It's that complex value system and its various components in function that enables one to make the supposedly impossible commitment of abstinence.
Some other people can also acquire this change of value system later in life. But that doesn't happen without some serious life reprogramming and a lot of sacrifice.
(2) In the West today, most of society don't support the value system needed in order to make abstinence work. The norm is, "If it feels good and hurts no one, then do it."
In the Orient, however, abstinence is still greatly valued. I live in Southeast Asia, and even in big cities it is still common for educational institutions and NGO's to advocate abstinence instead of "safe sex" (although the latter is encouraged in the specific context of marriage). Extramarital sexual activities that are commonly tolerated in the West (e.g. cohabitation, sleeping with one's boyfriend or girlfriend, or losing one's virginity during one's teenhood) is typically frowned upon, and could mean losing favor with society.
Having said that, this does not mean that abstinence can't work in the West, or always works in the East. I've spent half my life living in the West, including half my teenhood and my early twenties, and I made it. Likewise, I also know a number of friends who have never left this part of the world, but have slept with a number of people since their teenhood and don't feel an inch of guilt about it. I come from the Southeast Asian country with the highest annual rate of abortions and a thriving prostitution industry, despite these being illegal here.
In the West, extra effort may need to be made to become part of a community that supports abstinence. Joining a single men or single women's mentorship group at a church is one example.
In both the East and the West, lifestyle changes need to be adopted for abstinence to work out. For instance, if you don't want to end up going all the way each time you're seeing someone new, you may want to start off by not making a habit of seeing someone new each time you fancy them, but rather keep some distance for awhile to observe that person as a friend. And if you do decide to see them, you're there to commit. You keep your clothes on, away from the bedroom, and keep your physical relationship to no more than holding hands and hugs, lest anything beyond that makes sex too difficult to avoid. You don't look up porn or any other material that would otherwise arouse your desires. You don't live with or stay overnight at your partner's, and you don't let your partners bed down at yours either.
Teaching "abstinence only" is in principle the same whether it is to girls or to boys, except that some tweaks here and there need to be made to accommodate for the genders' psychological differences. Basically, boys give love to get sex, while girls give sex to get love. Girls want to be loved and understood, while boys want to be respected and trusted. And so the teachings should adjust accordingly to the genders' persepectives.
"What it teaches", and "the moral of the story", though, is more complex. I think teaching abstinence in a culture that doesn't support the practice is almost pointless, because there are issues that are much bigger than "don't have sex outside the bounds of a faithful monogamous relationship". Sex ed is not designed to address those issues.
In order for abstinence to work for someone, he or she needs to: (1) have an inherent value system that puts abstinence high on someone's moral priority, and (2) be part of a community that supports that value system and will keep him or her accountable for it. Otherwise, abstinence can't work because it's simply counter to human nature.
(1) For most people, this is has to do with coming from a family that practices and advocates abstinence, and discourages sexual activity in unmarried family members. They typically grew up being taught that sex is meant to be saved for a faithful monogamous relationship with a long term love partner; and thus they also acquire a different understanding of love, romantic relationship, and family compared to other people who don't believe in abstinence. It's that complex value system and its various components in function that enables one to make the supposedly impossible commitment of abstinence.
Some other people can also acquire this change of value system later in life. But that doesn't happen without some serious life reprogramming and a lot of sacrifice.
(2) In the West today, most of society don't support the value system needed in order to make abstinence work. The norm is, "If it feels good and hurts no one, then do it."
In the Orient, however, abstinence is still greatly valued. I live in Southeast Asia, and even in big cities it is still common for educational institutions and NGO's to advocate abstinence instead of "safe sex" (although the latter is encouraged in the specific context of marriage). Extramarital sexual activities that are commonly tolerated in the West (e.g. cohabitation, sleeping with one's boyfriend or girlfriend, or losing one's virginity during one's teenhood) is typically frowned upon, and could mean losing favor with society.
Having said that, this does not mean that abstinence can't work in the West, or always works in the East. I've spent half my life living in the West, including half my teenhood and my early twenties, and I made it. Likewise, I also know a number of friends who have never left this part of the world, but have slept with a number of people since their teenhood and don't feel an inch of guilt about it. I come from the Southeast Asian country with the highest annual rate of abortions and a thriving prostitution industry, despite these being illegal here.
In the West, extra effort may need to be made to become part of a community that supports abstinence. Joining a single men or single women's mentorship group at a church is one example.
In both the East and the West, lifestyle changes need to be adopted for abstinence to work out. For instance, if you don't want to end up going all the way each time you're seeing someone new, you may want to start off by not making a habit of seeing someone new each time you fancy them, but rather keep some distance for awhile to observe that person as a friend. And if you do decide to see them, you're there to commit. You keep your clothes on, away from the bedroom, and keep your physical relationship to no more than holding hands and hugs, lest anything beyond that makes sex too difficult to avoid. You don't look up porn or any other material that would otherwise arouse your desires. You don't live with or stay overnight at your partner's, and you don't let your partners bed down at yours either.
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