Sherry
We have a 3 bedroom house and an 8.5 year old daughter. We are strongly considering moving toward adopting a child a few years younger than our daughter after the new year.
The problem is that the rooms are very different in size. The bedroom my daughter is currently using is quite large, while the other bedroom is very small. I'm having trouble with the idea that a kid we adopt will have such a small room when compared with his/her sister. I don't want the kid thinking (s)he is less important than the one we already have.
Our solution is to buy bunk beds and have them share the larger room. In addition to solving the bedroom size problem, this will encourage them to develop a stronger sibling bond. Anyway, this idea works fine if we decide to adopt another girl. But what about a boy? How old is too old for a brother and sister to share a bedroom? If we do go ahead and have opposite genders share a room now, what possible solutions could we implement later on?
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About 10-12 is the age when boys and girls are separated so there are a few years. My children shared a room until he was 12 (6th grade) due to lack of space. They were both fine with it. I wouldn't do it beyond that though. They tend to want privacy after age 12.
I would just separate them now. If the adopted child is young (under 6), it wouldn't conceive a difference in room size. A room is a room to a young child but the toys & family are what is a big deal.
If the child is older, you can concentrate on making the room special for him or her by designing it with the child rather then design it before the child arrives.
If you want your daughter to have that too, do it before the new child arrives. You want it to be unique experience to the new child to make a difference.
As long as you make the child feel equal to your other child through love and respect, material things like room size won't matter much to them. It's only if the child feels less of value to your other one that he/she will see the room size as counting for less given. That's also the major cause of sibling rivalry (when one feels less loved and respected or inferior to the other). Children care more about love and acceptance.
About 10-12 is the age when boys and girls are separated so there are a few years. My children shared a room until he was 12 (6th grade) due to lack of space. They were both fine with it. I wouldn't do it beyond that though. They tend to want privacy after age 12.
I would just separate them now. If the adopted child is young (under 6), it wouldn't conceive a difference in room size. A room is a room to a young child but the toys & family are what is a big deal.
If the child is older, you can concentrate on making the room special for him or her by designing it with the child rather then design it before the child arrives.
If you want your daughter to have that too, do it before the new child arrives. You want it to be unique experience to the new child to make a difference.
As long as you make the child feel equal to your other child through love and respect, material things like room size won't matter much to them. It's only if the child feels less of value to your other one that he/she will see the room size as counting for less given. That's also the major cause of sibling rivalry (when one feels less loved and respected or inferior to the other). Children care more about love and acceptance.
Help!!! Teenage girl and boy have to share a room. How to design it?
Dragonfly
I am a teenage girl and have to share a bedroom with my brother. I hate it, but our family just can't afford a big house with separate rooms. I am wanting to redo the room. Any ideas for designing / decorating it to make it a livable, pleasant space for both of us for at least a few years until I am 18 and leave for college? Also, the room is really small, so there isn't room to divide it in half. And, we have bunkbeds.
Yeah, i kind of post stuff several times to get responses :) OH MY GOD THANK U SO MUCH!!!! That looks amazing. You're really good. I'd love to do something like that. I'm going to show it to my parents and work something out. THAT IS GREAT! Thank u :)
Oh and also my brother thinks its awesome. I'm pretty sure we're going to buy those bedsets and some of the other stuff, as much as we can without spending an enormous amount of money. :))))
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I answered your other question like this, but here it is again(:
http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/set?id=34603218
I designed it myself, links to most products are on the right side...hope you and your brother like it!
God Bless<3
let me know what you think(:
OMG i am so glad you like it!!!! Thanks, I really would love to be an interior designer when I grow up! And you are so welcome....anytime!!!
I answered your other question like this, but here it is again(:
http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/set?id=34603218
I designed it myself, links to most products are on the right side...hope you and your brother like it!
God Bless<3
let me know what you think(:
OMG i am so glad you like it!!!! Thanks, I really would love to be an interior designer when I grow up! And you are so welcome....anytime!!!
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