Sherry
We have a 3 bedroom house and an 8.5 year old daughter. We are strongly considering moving toward adopting a child a few years younger than our daughter after the new year.
The problem is that the rooms are very different in size. The bedroom my daughter is currently using is quite large, while the other bedroom is very small. I'm having trouble with the idea that a kid we adopt will have such a small room when compared with his/her sister. I don't want the kid thinking (s)he is less important than the one we already have.
Our solution is to buy bunk beds and have them share the larger room. In addition to solving the bedroom size problem, this will encourage them to develop a stronger sibling bond. Anyway, this idea works fine if we decide to adopt another girl. But what about a boy? How old is too old for a brother and sister to share a bedroom? If we do go ahead and have opposite genders share a room now, what possible solutions could we implement later on?
Answer
About 10-12 is the age when boys and girls are separated so there are a few years. My children shared a room until he was 12 (6th grade) due to lack of space. They were both fine with it. I wouldn't do it beyond that though. They tend to want privacy after age 12.
I would just separate them now. If the adopted child is young (under 6), it wouldn't conceive a difference in room size. A room is a room to a young child but the toys & family are what is a big deal.
If the child is older, you can concentrate on making the room special for him or her by designing it with the child rather then design it before the child arrives.
If you want your daughter to have that too, do it before the new child arrives. You want it to be unique experience to the new child to make a difference.
As long as you make the child feel equal to your other child through love and respect, material things like room size won't matter much to them. It's only if the child feels less of value to your other one that he/she will see the room size as counting for less given. That's also the major cause of sibling rivalry (when one feels less loved and respected or inferior to the other). Children care more about love and acceptance.
About 10-12 is the age when boys and girls are separated so there are a few years. My children shared a room until he was 12 (6th grade) due to lack of space. They were both fine with it. I wouldn't do it beyond that though. They tend to want privacy after age 12.
I would just separate them now. If the adopted child is young (under 6), it wouldn't conceive a difference in room size. A room is a room to a young child but the toys & family are what is a big deal.
If the child is older, you can concentrate on making the room special for him or her by designing it with the child rather then design it before the child arrives.
If you want your daughter to have that too, do it before the new child arrives. You want it to be unique experience to the new child to make a difference.
As long as you make the child feel equal to your other child through love and respect, material things like room size won't matter much to them. It's only if the child feels less of value to your other one that he/she will see the room size as counting for less given. That's also the major cause of sibling rivalry (when one feels less loved and respected or inferior to the other). Children care more about love and acceptance.
what's a cute color to paint a girl teen's room(:?
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my favorite color is pink and i wanted to paint my room light pink but i dont know if it would look good?
any suggestions?
thanks(:
Answer
Light Blue:
- http://www.kickrs.com/brand-new-pb-teen-girls-bedroom-designs-with-beautiful-decorating/pb-teen-girls-bedroom-decorating-ideas-5/
- http://caffeinatedglobe.blogspot.com/2011/03/teenage-girl-bedroom-idea-turquoise-and.html
Lavender:
- http://www.photoexit.com/beautiful-solid-lavender-bedroom-design-decor-ideas/solid-lavender-bedroom-design-ideas-4/
- http://dighomedesign.com/beautiful-purple-bedroom-for-teenage-girl-room-decor.html
Green:
- http://www.aactionservices.com/tips-for-teen-bedroom-makeover/
- http://designdazzle.blogspot.com/2009/03/this-room-has-style.html
Pink:
- http://www.femaleways.com/bedroom-design/cool-teen-room-designs-by-hulsta-for-boys-and-girls/
- http://www.home-designing.com/2009/03/teen-room-design-set-6-random (scroll down until you see the pink room from PB Teen )
Hope you liked some of these samples and are able to decide on which color to use in your room! :)
Light Blue:
- http://www.kickrs.com/brand-new-pb-teen-girls-bedroom-designs-with-beautiful-decorating/pb-teen-girls-bedroom-decorating-ideas-5/
- http://caffeinatedglobe.blogspot.com/2011/03/teenage-girl-bedroom-idea-turquoise-and.html
Lavender:
- http://www.photoexit.com/beautiful-solid-lavender-bedroom-design-decor-ideas/solid-lavender-bedroom-design-ideas-4/
- http://dighomedesign.com/beautiful-purple-bedroom-for-teenage-girl-room-decor.html
Green:
- http://www.aactionservices.com/tips-for-teen-bedroom-makeover/
- http://designdazzle.blogspot.com/2009/03/this-room-has-style.html
Pink:
- http://www.femaleways.com/bedroom-design/cool-teen-room-designs-by-hulsta-for-boys-and-girls/
- http://www.home-designing.com/2009/03/teen-room-design-set-6-random (scroll down until you see the pink room from PB Teen )
Hope you liked some of these samples and are able to decide on which color to use in your room! :)
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